It has come to our attention that things may be slacking off again in the household chores and schoolwork. We would like to remind you that using NetFlix, watching TV, using the internet and computers for tasks other than schoolwork are all privileges. As such, I feel that you should be informed that Mom and I are considering removing the NetFlix service, as it's something we don't use and have concerns over it being abused. You have 2 days to show us that having this available to you is not being abused, the service renews every month and can be cancelled at anytime. As you have already noticed, we have enacted blackout periods for tablets, iPods and computers internet access at a specific time every night. If this continues to be an inconvenience to you; I can adjust those settings to include allowing only specific sites, limiting time allowed on at any given time, and other limitations as deemed appropriate. Let me remind you that circumventing any of the controls results in immediate revocation of those privileges for you.
Now then, the issues at hand are things like hearing from your teacher that homework hasn't been turned in for a couple of days; we really don't like getting those emails asking if everything is alright at home because you aren't doing homework again. Then we move on to things like laundry being left in the living room. Not in a neat pile that tells us you were planning on picking it up next time you got up, but wherever it landed after coming off your body at what appears to be a high velocity, i.e. thrown. By the way, why are you undressing in the living room anyway? Dishes and trash being left in the living room, overflowing trash and recycle bins. The hardest part of all of this is not that these items are left, it's that no one wants to claim ownership and responsibility. We have seen both of you go out of your way to step over/around whatever it is someone else left rather than picking it up and taking it with you as you take your own stuff to where it belongs. I should note that we don't often see you taking your own stuff, unless we have reminded you to do so at least a dozen times. Simple things like picking up only your own dishes instead of all of the dishes in that area, same goes for trash and clothes.
It's not that dishes, laundry and trash need to make it near their intended location; they should make it to the intended location. Laundry does not go on the bedroom floor for Mom and I to pick up; it goes into the baskets, preferably sorted. Trash goes into a trash bag in a trash can, if it did or does contain food it should go into the kitchen trash as it's taken out more frequently. Dishes don't get piled in and around the sink, they should be rinsed put in the dishwasher; if the dishwasher is clean it should be emptied. If the trash or recycle are full they should be taken out, not left for Mom and I to remind you about.
Moving forward, we would like these little things taken care of. Homework should be done after school; you can take a break and get a snack, just make sure it's not 3 hours long sitting in front of the TV. If you get in a habit of picking up the trash as you go, taking dishes to the kitchen and loading/unloading the dishwasher, taking trash and recycle out, doing the little bits of pickup; it will help free up our time to do more stuff with you guys. We do understand that sometimes we all slack off, Mom and I recognize that we aren't always the best at doing these things as well. What we do end up doing more of is picking up your stuff when we are picking up our stuff, after our own slack off periods.
If you are picking up the slack for someone else, it's not your place to require acknowledgement; it's up to them to acknowledge what you have done for them. We don't always do so on a day to day basis; but we not need to fight over who is or is not doing their share either. We all just need to chip in and work together to make the house cleaner and a nicer place for us all to relax and enjoy.
Mom and I have tried to set the chores up so they only take you 30 minutes or less each day; if you just get to them and get them done. If you need our help, let us know and we will try to make time as soon as we can to help you out. We expect chores and school work to be completed after school prior to doing your marathon TV watching. After dinner, if Mom and I have free time, we expect to have control over the TV and what is watched without complaining; after all you have had plenty of time to watch it while Mom is doing homework and I am at work.
Mom & Dad